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While it’s the little details that we can all obsess over, there is a fine art to being a great wedding guest. What does it take to ensure that wedding guests add to the day rather than add problems to the day?
Don't Be a Show-Off When It Comes to Style
Guests, whether male or female, need to remember that it is not their day. One of the biggest problems is that we can easily upstage the bride or groom. The groom and the groomsmen may be resplendent in their Oxford suits and the bride in their plunging white gown but for some reason, as guests, we can sometimes feel that temptation to use this event to showcase our unique style. Upstaging the bride is a big no-no, and something like see-through tops or plunging necklines can totally upstage the bride. Also, don’t wear white!
Be Punctual
If you are someone who would be late to your own wedding, you've got to work hard at punctuality, especially when it comes to the happy couple. There is nothing worse than the sound of the church doors creaking open in the middle of the ceremony with you apologising in a very audible whisper. This detracts from the sense of occasion, the feel of the ceremony, and it will result in daggers from the bride or groom. Be punctual, and this means that you should not just prepare your clothes the night before, but also know how to get to the venue, make sure that there is a plan B, and very simply, if you are someone who is always running late, you need to set aside at least 30 minutes more than is necessary! 30 minutes allows not just for traffic problems, but it also means you won't feel so stressed getting to the venue.
Make Sure Your Name is on the Gift
The bride and groom will have a lot of presents to go through, and if you slip a gift onto the gift table and there's no name, it can be quite disappointing for the bride and groom to get a great gift and not know who they should thank for it.
Be in the Moment
It's the couple's day, not yours, and it's so easy for us to flick out our phones when there is a lull in the ceremony, but we need to respect the couple and be fantastic guests. We should enjoy being engaged guests, and rather than sitting there on our phones being anti-social, we should talk to others that are there, including relatives, and sign the guest book, but also make sure that you spend the time being a wedding guest.
Let the Couple Have Their Day
The wedding guests are incredibly important, but we all know it's about the two right at the altar. They've asked you for a reason, and that's because they want you to celebrate with them, and there should be times when you don't intrude. During the cocktail party where they're all being whisked away for photos, you shouldn't attempt to stop them for a chance, and it's very likely they won't have much time to speak to you at all, but it is ultimately their day!
Show Appreciation and Gratitude
Take a moment to thank the couple for inviting you to their special day. Express your gratitude for their hospitality, the effort they put into planning the wedding, and the joy you experienced being part of their celebration. Sending a thank-you note or message after the wedding can be a thoughtful gesture.
Respect the Couple's Wishes
It's essential to follow any specific instructions or requests from the couple regarding the wedding. Whether it's regarding dress code, photography, or other aspects, honoring their wishes demonstrates your consideration and support for their special day.
Avoid Excessive Alcohol Consumption
While it's natural to enjoy the festivities and indulge in some drinks, it's crucial to maintain control and not go overboard with alcohol consumption. Getting excessively drunk can lead to inappropriate behavior or embarrassing situations that can overshadow the couple's wedding.
Be Mindful of Speeches and Toasts
If you're asked to give a speech or toast, keep it positive, brief, and appropriate. Avoid embarrassing stories or inside jokes that might make others uncomfortable. Focus on expressing your heartfelt congratulations and well-wishes to the couple.
Follow Seating Arrangements
If the couple has assigned seating, respect their plan and avoid switching or rearranging seats without permission. Seating arrangements are often carefully organized to ensure a smooth flow of the event and consider the comfort and dynamics of the guests.
Don't Overstay Your Welcome
While it's wonderful to celebrate and enjoy the wedding, be mindful of the timing and avoid overstaying your welcome. It's common for couples to have an after-party or private moments with close family and friends after the reception. Respect their need for privacy and know when it's time to bid your farewells.
Remember, being a great wedding guest is about supporting and celebrating the couple while respecting their wishes and the significance of the occasion. By keeping these points in mind, you can contribute to making the day memorable and enjoyable for everyone involved.
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